If you have lots of sexual fantasies, chances are that role-play will allow you to experiment with just about any scenario. You can become a dominant daddy, a shy and inexperienced student, a cock-hungry hooker, or even an ancient pirate, warrior, or alien!
However, while role-play can transform your sex life and allow you to fulfill your deepest desires, you should be careful while initiating it. So keep reading to learn how to initiate role-play sex with your partner for an insanely hot (and safe) experience!
Talk About It
Firstly, role-play sex can allow you to experience some unique erotic action and enact your wildest fantasies. As we all know, sex begins in the mind, and if you’ve got a naughty imagination, almost anything is possible.
Of course, role-play requires consent, and you should always be careful. If you are thinking about initiating it with your partner, you’ll need to discuss it first.
What’s more, role-play is incredibly hot because it allows you to step out of your comfort zone. It can put you in the middle of all the action you’ve fantasized about or have seen in porn. However, since it incorporates mind games and physical stimulation, you’ll have to make sure that your partner is comfortable with it too.
So talk about the reasons why you’d like to try it first. Also, discuss some of the ideas that you’d like to attempt. Your fantasies could encompass anything from innocent and fun scenes to strong, forceful, or even illegal play. Keep in mind that if your partner asks you to degrade or overpower them, it doesn’t mean that they actually crave this in real life. Therefore, any type of role-play scenario should remain in the realm of fantasy.
It Does Not Need to Be Expensive
As mentioned, role-play sex is incredibly fun because you can try just about anything. While sex toys and other accessories could certainly enhance your pleasure in various fantasies (e.g., doctor/patient), role-play doesn’t need to be expensive. The same goes for lingerie or even sexy costumes.
Depending on the sexual fantasy, you could use various household or clothing items. That includes ropes, stockings, neckties, stools, panties, belts, ice cubes, make-up, and more. You can use all of those items as accessories, especially if you are considering mild or intense bondage.
Also, think about your environment and how you’ll set the scene. It’s likely that your bathroom, living room, and kitchen could inspire you to try various roles like a French maid, massage therapist, etc. Another great sex tip for couples is to consider your wardrobe. If you’ve got an old work uniform or any kind of sexy outfit from the past, dig it up and use it during the scene.
As you can see, role-play allows you to improvise. You can get creative in all sorts of ways without spending money. Nevertheless, if it becomes a frequent activity, definitely consider investing in some sex toys and accessories. Things like vibrators, butt plugs, lube, cuffs, clamps, face masks, and similar, can bring more realism to your session as well as a ton of additional pleasure.
Don’t Let It Become Awkward
If you’ve never tried role-play sex, you should expect a bit of awkwardness at first. You or your partner may not be used to staying in character when the role-play starts. This could lead to clumsy moments, giggling, and a lack of focus.
Fortunately, the only way to remove any awkwardness is to get in the zone. Don’t worry too much about what you’ll say and simply let your fantasy flow. Once you’re in a role, try not to break character.
Remember that the longer you stay in the role, the more realistic it will seem. You can even start the scenario hours before sex. For example, you and your partner could get into the roles during a date. You could have a long conversation while staying in character. This can build up the anticipation and allow you to get comfortable.
As mentioned, sexual role-playing is also a mind game. You’ll need to make it seem realistic by choosing the proper things to say. For instance, your scenario could require lots of innocent daddy talk, foreign languages, hardcore dirty talk, playful flirting that matches the roles in the scene, or even insults. If you don’t know what to say, it’s better to research the role before. So simply watch some movies, check out some porn, or read a book to get some kinky sex ideas.
Some Fantasies Are Weird
And like we’ve said before, you and your partner could have a lot of weird and even extreme fantasies.
If your partner asks you to violently dominate them or use force, just remember that it’s all a fantasy. For instance, in extreme cases, people can get aroused by scenarios with a kidnapper and a victim. In this case, their fantasy allows them to experience a loss of control and get dominated. It doesn’t necessarily mean that they want to get overpowered in real life and experience this scenario for real. Most fantasies are completely normal. However, you’ll need to establish trust with your partner. You and your partner should be open-minded and non-judgemental.
So even if the scenario seems incredibly bizarre, don’t dismiss or laugh at it because it can harm your relationship.
Establish a Safe Word
Most scenarios revolve around power dynamics. While you don’t have to practice BDSM to enjoy exciting role-play fantasies, it will be clever to use a safe word.
Role-playing involves submissive and dominant roles, which you’ll need to discuss beforehand. You should consider your limits, rules, interests, and boundaries. It’s possible to use a few safe words or even some gestures to slow the action down or stop it completely. This is extremely important if you are using accessories and if you’re doing anything that might cause discomfort or pain.
Lastly, you shouldn’t forget about aftercare. Some of the most extreme scenarios can be physically and mentally exhausting. This is especially true if the scenario involves a lot of humiliation or a role that is simply too weird. When the scene ends, both of you should take some time to relax and get back to the real world. Sex experts refer to this as “aftercare.”
You can spend some intimate moments cuddling, caressing each other, and simply relaxing in bed. Also, you can talk about the scene and discuss the things that you enjoyed the most. That way, you’ll comfort each other emotionally and ensure that no harm was done. Therefore, aside from being highly stimulating, role-play can also deepen your connection with your partner.
Let the Games Begin!
Hopefully, our guide has shown you how to get the ball rolling and initiate any type of role-play with care. So try some of our tips, let your imagination flow, and have fun!